For some students, practicality wins over passion, which means they end up in a career field they absolutely hate. For me, there was never a question as to what I would do be an elementary school teacher , or how much money I would make. Since she looked drastically different than them, she and her friend were curiosities. This kind of gives Marina an ego booster; that they would find her so interesting when she sees herself as anything but. I loved this cultural anthropological study about how what we perceive as normal can be so different to others.
You kind of get that same feeling that famous actors go through when everyone wants to take their picture. We need to live in the now, preserve the memories NOW, so when the time comes, we can be those walking, talking history books future generations can hear about. In a perfect world, this book would have never been published because Marina Keegan wouldn't have died at age There were a few decent stories and essays in here--writing that showed tremendous ability and potential if they were to appear in a college workshop.
If I had taught her in an introductory writing class, I would have loved her work and, green with envy, hated her precocious talent. But there are a lot of very weak pieces in here, too. Keegan is just so damn y In a perfect world, this book would have never been published because Marina Keegan wouldn't have died at age Keegan is just so damn young.
She has a lot of silly ideas that, given 5 years of life beyond her incredibly privileged upbringing and education, she would have grown out of. And I genuinely believe that she would have become a prolific and successful writer. All that being said, I never would have picked this up if not for my book club. I rushed through it with the occasional groan and many wistful sighs about the stories Keegan should have gotten the chance to write 10 years from now. I thought The Opposite of Loneliness was an excellent collection of fiction and non-fiction essays by Marina Keegan, a Yale student who died in a car wreck a couple days after she graduated from college.
My favorite essay out of the bunch is "Against the Grain" pg where she discusses her Celiac disease and the negative effect that that had on her mother. She expresses frustration with how ridiculously protective her mother became when they were finally able to figure out what was I thought The Opposite of Loneliness was an excellent collection of fiction and non-fiction essays by Marina Keegan, a Yale student who died in a car wreck a couple days after she graduated from college. She expresses frustration with how ridiculously protective her mother became when they were finally able to figure out what was wrong.
She talks about being embarrassed at holidays as her mom cooked separate pies just for her or at field trips when her mother brought along special snacks. But then, she reveals how she saw an internet article about how having Celiac disease could negatively effect the fetus when the sufferer becomes pregnant She suddenly understands that feeling, how she would do anything to protect that other person, her baby, and suddenly her mom's behavior doesn't seem all that crazy after all. Of course, the absolutely heartbreaking moment for the reader is realizing that this particular dream will never come to fruition for Marina, but the fact that she even had that "ah-ha" moment is so powerful.
You'd work at this frantic pace, not giving a thought about your family or friends at home, then somehow in the lull between the final and actually going home, it would occur to me to wonder how my sisters had been for the last ten weeks or what my high school buddies had been up to. I'd also forgotten that the world "carr ies on in every place at once. In that essay, Marina is talking about helping to save whales that were beached near her home. She talks about the time, effort, and money that is spent without consideration for the fact that only so many of the whales will actually be saved.
Then, when these whale rescuers go home, they do so without a backward glance towards the homeless on the streets, who are just as "beached" as the whales that they've been caring for all day.
Marine was writing about how 25 percent of Yale graduates go immediately into banking or consulting positions that have absolutely nothing to do with their long term goals, but provide a quick paycheck in the short term. Will they ever realize their dreams? If they make enough money, will they even care? Life is about more than a paycheck. Marine Keegan knew that and her life had barely begun.
What Loneliness Feels Like
Thanks for reading! I give this a solid 3. I enjoyed this book but wasn't profoundly impacted by it. There were a few fiction stories and a few essays that gripped me and left me wanting more, but overall they were just enjoyable to read. Not amazing, not profound, not too much, just enjoyable.
I do think Marina was a great writer and obviously we don't know what she would have become, but these aren't as epic and profound as I was expecting them to be? I dunno. I read bad and good things about this book before I started and I think I just fall somewhere in the middle. It wasn't the worst, it wasn't the best, but it ewe a good read. View 1 comment.
I have to admit that I bought this book with my Kindle because I heard of the tragic accident that cost Marina's life. Some of the reviews said that this book was published because Marina was an upper class girl. She graduated Magna Cum Laude from Yale, can't do that with money alone. Some people dismissed this as a Young Adult book "that only appealed to people the same age as Marina. I am a 52 year old housewife, and I saw many stories and essays that appealed to me and would be interesting for people my age and beyond. My favorite story was "Winter Break" as it is rather close to the bone between my daughter and myself.
The Opposite of Loneliness, when knowing the circumstances of the book is breathtaking. In some of the essays, Marina refers to how bright the future is going to be and how much she looks forward to the things she will accomplish. This book is something she did accomplish, Marina's life is held between the covers of this book. We mourn because there will be no more. But we rejoice that we have a little glimpse into the mind of Marina Keegan.
This book is stunning. Aug 06, Katie rated it it was amazing Shelves: favorites. I don't think I could just not give this book five stars. I started reading it at work one day, and I couldn't put it down. I got attached to pretty much every story and its characters and I absolutely loved the nonfiction section as well. Overall, this is fantastic and I'd recommend it to pretty much anyone and everyone.
Dec 15, Thomas rated it liked it Shelves: nonfiction , short-stories-for-fun. Similar to the publication of Go Set a Watchman , the relevance of The Opposite of Loneliness raises a lot of interesting questions. Would this collection have been published if not for Marina Keegan's death?
What if she had not attended Yale? How much did her privilege play a part as opposed to her talent? I do not ask these questions to mitigate the tragedy of her all-too-early passing, just to stimulate thought surrounding this book's publication overall. Those inquiries aside, I enjoyed Keegan's shor Similar to the publication of Go Set a Watchman , the relevance of The Opposite of Loneliness raises a lot of interesting questions.
Those inquiries aside, I enjoyed Keegan's short stories and her essays. While I found a few pieces bland or under-developed, almost all of them show great potential. Her vivacity and idealism resonated with me the most. She makes her characters intriguing and honest as opposed to just sophisticated, and her nonfiction shows her range of interests and ideas.
While I cannot say I will remember too much from reading her work, I will recall certain thoughts and emotions, like Yale's unfortunate propensity for producing business folk, as well as one of her character's guilt over the death of her romantic fling. Overall, recommended for those searching for some quick reading material by an author with a heartbreaking backstory.
It saddens me that we will not have the opportunity to see Keegan develop even further as a writer. Tragic story of the author aside, these short stories and essays were beautiful. I loved them with all my heart. Marina's writing had so much passion and love and life behind it. Everything she wrote felt so exposing and honest. I haven't loved a book like this is a while. I will be going back and rereading her pieces for a long time.
The tragic story of Marina's death It did and did not affect the way I read this. My opinion of her writing as nothing to do with the fa God. My opinion of her writing as nothing to do with the fact that she is no long here; I would have still loved this if she were alive today. There were some lines, though, that hit me in the gut, knowing that she wrote this with no knowledge of how young she was going to leave this world.
Those moments were quite jarring. And I cry because she was such an amazing writer and this is all we get to hear from her. I guess one of the coolest things about growing up is that you suddenly have tons of important things to say and people actually listen to you. Light in the air, but heavy with gravity. Marina Keegan died at age Her feet never hit the water I guess one of the coolest things about growing up is that you suddenly have tons of important things to say and people actually listen to you.
Her feet never hit the water. Throughout The Opposite of Loneliness I had the wonderful privilege to see many of my current hopes and joys and anxieties recounted by a peer because for the first time, my generation is old enough to represent itself. No longer must we suffer the apocalyptic announcements of year-old writers condemning us Millenials for our flightiness and inattention. We are on the cusp, we own the cusp, and we have the right to describe it. Reading her essays is like a conversation, but instead of talking at you or about you, she talks with you. We have so much time…What we have to remember is that we can still do anything.
We can change our minds. We can start over. Her short stories are even better. The Emerald City is a modern epistolary, a one-sided email chain from a young architect who has fallen from his cusp and finds himself in Iraq, consciously callow and outside his element, which makes his surprising fate even more devastating. The masterpiece, however, is the first story Cold Pastoral. Claire, a college student, must decide how much to care when a not-quite-but-almost-boyfriend unexpectedly dies. And how can we forge meaningful connections if life is a constant attempt to act casual?
In its scant 24 pages I was alternately charmed and horrified by how shockingly honest it was. In the title essay Marina asks if we have a word for the opposite of loneliness. View all 8 comments. The danger with a posthumous collection like this is that its value will be purely sentimental: you feel sorry for what happened to the author, so are willing to overlook deficiencies in the writing. Let me reassure you, though: this is top-notch work; no caveats required. The best stories are clearly The danger with a posthumous collection like this is that its value will be purely sentimental: you feel sorry for what happened to the author, so are willing to overlook deficiencies in the writing.
The best stories are clearly autobiographical, narrated in the first person by a college student. Keegan was also on the way to becoming a successful essayist in the vein of David Foster Wallace and Jonathan Franzen. Apr 07, Chihoe Ho rated it really liked it. I'm fine. But when it comes down to it, we really know that it isn't the case. Life can be a tricky maneuver and change in the blink of an eye. Life, while long and filled with optimistic hope, can just be as short and littered with shattered promises.
You understand that from the life of Marina Keegan, tragically cut short by a car accident five days after her graduation from Yale, just as much as you sense it exud "I'm young.
You understand that from the life of Marina Keegan, tragically cut short by a car accident five days after her graduation from Yale, just as much as you sense it exuding from her words in this collection of essays and stories. These affecting pieces in "The Opposite of Loneliness" are presented with a keen clarity, and offers much to ponder over.
Even with the 22 years of her existence, Keegan had managed to articulate herself with such awareness of herself and the world around her. She was self-assured but shared some insecurities; she was sensible beyond her years but still was learning as she matured. Think of the experiences she could have had that would have furthered her writing! Yes, and no, we shouldn't dwell and lament over the loss but celebrate what she has imparted to us.
This is a voice of a generation, one that will continue to inspire countless. She would want to be remembered because she's good. All right, well, I was skeptical about this book from the start, and this passage, five lines in, didn't help matters: A student stood up. Long, reddish-brown hair. Long legs. Flagrantly short skirt.
I couldn't help but think, what if that passage said, "Chubby.
Sitemap Notification Received
Bad skin. Short, mousy-brown hair. Long baggy black T-shirt and cargo pants"? Would you still want to read this book? Would it have even been published? It's no accident that the cover of this book features a professional-quality photo ofmatters: A All right, well, I was skeptical about this book from the start, and this passage, five lines in, didn't help matters: A student stood up. It's no accident that the cover of this book features a professional-quality photo of the author herself. There's nothing U. If you don't believe me, consult any number of movies, "thriller" novels, and crime TV shows, and look at what crimes the national news focuses on.
And if you find those last two sentences offensive, well, I assure you, I'm offended too. But none of this is Marina Keegan's fault, of course, and her death is a tragedy, and while I'm sure some of the people who got involved in the publication of this book did so for cynical reasons, I'm equally sure that there were many more who did so because they genuinely believed Marina's writing deserved to be out there in the world.
Opposite Of Loneliness Published After Yale Grad Marina Keegan's Death - Business Insider
So I approached this book with an open mind. I realize I can be so opinionated that it may be hard to believe I approach any book with an open mind, but honestly, I am always, always, always open to being surprised, pleasantly or otherwise, and I'm always hoping that I'll enjoy what I read, even if it means all my doubts are proved wrong. I love being proved wrong, actually. I wanted this book to prove me wrong. Things started off well. I enjoyed and was impressed by the first two short stories, "Cold Pastoral" and "Winter Break. Most such pieces stay confined to college literary magazines and portfolios for MFA applications, and in most cases that's probably wise, but these two stories made me realize that we're probably missing out on some fresh perspectives.
It was all downhill from there, unfortunately. The other stories featuring young people were unconvincing to me, and the ones about older people just didn't work at all--her year-olds and year-olds all read like year-olds to me. I appreciate that Marina was experimenting and trying out new viewpoints, but it's obvious that these weren't really meant for national publication by a major publisher, and in a way it's a bit unfair that they're now subject to that kind of scrutiny, because they just don't hold up under it, in my opinion.
As for the essays, they were all well-written but nothing special. I feel like my own writing as a college student was at least as good, in spite of or perhaps because of my not having the levels of privilege Marina had. There are probably students all over the U. I did enjoy the essay "Even Artichokes Have Doubts"--I had no knowledge of the recruiting that consulting and finance firms do on Ivy League campuses, so that was interesting, and she made some good points. I was also struck by Marina's seeming obsession with the fact that the sun is going to burn out one day--no matter how good a job we do with saving the environment, with archiving things for posterity, ultimately one day none of it is going to matter.
This felt really poignant to me--I wonder, with all sincerity, if she would have been so concerned with this if she knew how her own story was going to end. But she was no nihilist-- even at her young age, Marina was obviously aware that because we don't have all the time in the world, we need to always be seizing the moment and making the most of it. So I can see why this book was published, and I think its ideal audience is high school and college students, who'll see themselves in this book in more ways than one.
Marina was clearly devoted to the idea of a purposeful life, of not defaulting into a particular existence just because it's easiest or because you want to be like everyone else or because you can't think of anything else to do, and that's a great lesson for young people to absorb. I do think that Marina would have been a fantastic writer if given more time, and it's sad that this is all we'll ever get from her, but if these writings inspire people to live their own lives more fully, we can't ask for more than that.
View all 11 comments. Marina Keegan was a Yale-graduate that died a few days after her graduation, and was known among the university as an author, playwright, journalist, poet, and probably more. Of course not, because such a book was great whether the person died or not. Their death did not define them as authors, but it did bring them into the light. Vincent van Gogh was not popular on his time, and it was not until many years later, and after his tragic death that people realized his beauty.
Sadly, sometimes people do not get the recognition they deserve until they have departed. Anyways, let us move on to the content of the book. They are articulate but derivative, their own voices muffled by their desire to skip over their current age and experience, which they fear trivial, and on some version of polished adulthood without passing Go.
Marina was twenty-one and sounded twenty-one: a brainy twenty-one, a twenty-one who knew her way around the English language, a twenty-one who understood that there were few better subjects that being young and uncertain and starry-eyed and frustrated and hopeful. It held a different meaning to all of us, but there was always a string tying us together, hope. But her fiction was better , and for that I consider her a good observer of human condition, because she writes from her perspective, from envying someone because they have their lives figured out to college kids being in this limbo between sounding to young or too old.
But she does not rely on her perspective alone, but on the perspective of a soldier in Iraq, a hypochondriac ballerina, and even an exterminator.
- In a place where I only had myself, my loneliness turned into something productive.
- What Loneliness Taught Me About Writing and Love!
- creative writing classes for beginners london.
- electronic lab reporting.
- essay about entrepreneurship.
- my school essay grade 3.
- safety seat belts essay.
I highly recommend it, and it is free, so go and read it. As soon as I finished the library copy I had borrowed I waited for an opportunity to buy this book for myself, and when I did, I re-read it and then annotated it. That is how much I loved it, enough to fill it with notes and bent pages. View all 20 comments. No, I want enough time to be in love with everything And I cry because everything is so beautiful and so short.
Marina Keegan was a brilliant and beautiful young woman whose life was cut tragically short only five days after graduating from Yale. This book collects some of her work, both fiction and nonfiction, in a way that highlights the beauty and poignancy of her spirit. I freaking dare you to read this book and not cry. Go on. Try it "Do you wanna leave soon? Try it. I bet you will be bawling within the first three pages. I know I was. And despite the heaviness that lies on these pages due to the knowledge of her untimely death, that wasn't why I cried so hard and so much while reading this.
It was because Marina literally was a truly beautiful person both inside and out, and that is shown so vividly through her writing. You can practically feel her positive energy and hopeful spirit as you read her words. This is a fantastic book. Mar 20, Katie rated it really liked it. I'll review this in my May wrap up! Jan 12, Kai rated it really liked it Shelves: Find more of my books on Instagram. This book is now one of my favorite books of all time. The writing is impeccable. She was a genius with words. I felt so invested in the characters' lives, even in such short stories.
I felt like I knew exactly how they were feeling even in situations I could not necessarily relate to. Her essays are smart, humorous, and wickedly on point. Basically, one of the most perfect books I have read in a long time. Highly, highly recommend. Apr 29, Jenny Reading Envy rated it really liked it Shelves: short-stories , read , creative-non-fiction , reading-envy-podcast.
Marina Keegan died five days after graduating from Yale, destined for a job at the New Yorker. Many people have read her title essay in the Yale Daily News , which reads more like a student commencement address. It's important to view this collection for what it is. Marina was an undergraduate, only an undergraduate. Her writing doesn't even have the telltale signs of an MFA probably for he best and it sounds young, but she was young.
Compare it to other writers her age and I think there Marina Keegan died five days after graduating from Yale, destined for a job at the New Yorker. Compare it to other writers her age and I think there are pockets of really good moments. She did not provide her consent nor did she have an opportunity to weigh in on what was included, how it was presented, or how it was edited. Most writers would be horrified at being left out of that process but of course, she had no choice. The writings are divided into two sections - fiction and non-fiction.
While many of the works of fiction are a realistic capture of people she knew, probably her own experiences fictionalized with a few experiments in style, I found more to like in the non-fiction section. My two favorites are "Stability in Motion," about her grandmother's car that she inherited and then passed on to her brother; "Why We Care About Whales" shows more of the potential for true beauty in her writing, and is my favorite.
Two of Marina's poems are included in the book as introductions to sections and I would have liked to see more of them. Jul 27, Elise rated it really liked it. She was so full of hope and life. Her death was a tragedy and I teared up a little when I read what happened to her.
Admittedly, I didn't love all of her stories, but a couple of them really stuck with me and I've found myself thinking about them several times. All in all 'The Opposite of Loneliness' is definitely worth a read. She is best known for her essay The Opposite of Loneliness, which went viral and was viewed over 1. Do you? Come to think of it, what IS the opposite of loneliness really?
I picked up this book today, rather impulsively and randomly, after seeing a review of it on my feed- Thank you so much, Liz. I couldn't even wait until I got home to read it, I wanted to know, what did Marina have to say? What did she leave behind? So I sat in the nearest park I could find and I read it. And after I was done, I sat in that same park and cried like I had pieces of broken glass stuck in my foot, like the world would never be right again.
I cried and cried and cried because I pictured myself in the eyes of those in the park with me, and I knew I looked a terrible sight, but I needed emptying and I was far from home- I cried because I couldn't even have the comfort of crying without subjecting myself to the wary eyes of onlookers. I didn't even allow myself the privilege of keeping my blow fish face all to myself. And don't stay it's okay because it's not. Nothing about a girl in the prime of her youth- tipping with bold and beautiful and lingering words in her heart and on her lips-dying is okay.
I cried my tear ducts out and I didn't know how to do it gracefully. I cried because she gets got me and she's nowhere to be found in the world, not anymore. I cried because even if I wish to meet her someday -and I do-it will never be possible. I cried for all the words that will never be. We have so much time. That others are somehow ahead. More accomplished, more specialized. More on the path to somehow saving the world, somehow creating or inventing or improving. Some of us have focused ourselves.
Some of us know exactly what we want and are on the path to get it: already going to med school, working at the perfect NGO, doing research. To you I say both congratulations and you suck. I cried for a girl I never knew. Loneliness is cold with no hope for warmth but it is also unbearable heat. Loneliness is an awful paradox. Loneliness is drowning in a sea or in a crowd of people. It is believing that your existence is insignificant; it is believing that you are meaningless to anyone and anything. Loneliness is tragedy; it is heartbreak and hardship and hurt. Loneliness is being covered in open wounds and scars that never heal.
Loneliness is shame. Loneliness is misery and sorrow; it is grieving with no hope.
- In a place where I only had myself, my loneliness turned into something productive.
- essay speech on war should be banned.
- breast cancer prothesis.
- KEEGAN: The Opposite of Loneliness!
- dissertation binding southampton uni.
- The Loneliness of the Page - Electric Literature;
- romeo and juliet essay fate.
- general outline for argumentative essay.
- Aeon for Friends!
- cloning and expression thesis.
- Loneliness Essays (Examples)!
Loneliness is blinding and deafening. Loneliness is feeling unable. It is feeling discarded, unwanted, and unloved. Loneliness captivates nothing and no one. Loneliness is a bad dream but you cannot be awoken, you do not see the light of day.
Loneliness constricts the heart. Loneliness cripples the body and the mind and the soul. Loneliness is unconscious and numb. Loneliness is endless tears for change — any change that will tell you that you are alive. Because loneliness is dying at every moment; loneliness is death. Loneliness — flee from it. Flee from it always. Reblogged this on Jiani Ho. Reblogged this on pageantofthebizarre. Reblogged this on the life of being a wallflower.